It's Been Little A While...I Shouldn't Have Left You...

Life happens...we fall back and arrange both our dates and our moments accordingly. 

Sometimes we simply pause for too long and the days seem to rush by like a cascade of burning lava.

Such is my life, however, I don't find myself discouraged or disappointed. I just enjoy the ebbs and flows of my journey with a platter of laughter and a bucket (yes bucket) of tears.

Life's many lessons never cease to amaze me. One failed relationship...courtship...friendship after another only solidifies the title of my blog and my ongoing mantra. 

When readers see the name of my blog, they think I'm just another scorned black woman...until they understand what the title means to me. Don't get me wrong, I know it sounds negative when you say you can't do something. Heck, I'm constantly telling my students that can't is a cuss word. Fortunately, the revelation behind the title gives each reader a glimpse into the life of a woman who has learned and evolved through a process of dating, devaluing herself, regretting and reconnecting with her inner-beauty. What a way to become more and more whole each day!

In essence, my seemingly negative mantra has become the springboard for a very positive change in my life. In short, although I love everyone...in this case every man (especially black men--Oh my, oh my, my, my), I realized a long time ago that I need more than a great sexual experience...more than a nice meal at a five star restaurant... more than a man a bank account and stock portfolio full of nearly endless resources. I need a man who fits...not flawlessly perfect...more valuable than anything, someone who is my friend. Ultimately, I long for a man who's life and will is safe for me to submit to...a man I can become an asset to...someone who can handle my vocabulary, wits and ambitions...someone who is adventurous, sensible and confident. Even though a copious number of friends, family members and strangers have told me I won't find a man as smart as I am or one that may appreciate my intellectual prowess, I guess I'm a hopeless

optimist. I believe I can have it all. Consequently, if by chance I need to compromise, I don't mind stepping down a notch; I just don't want to have to jump off of a cliff to meet someone.

I have more hilarious stories to divulge in the coming weeks. Please share, comment, email...etc. I truly enjoy your feedback. It's what keeps me writing. 

Thanks so much for stopping by.